First, congratulations on the New Year! You made it to 2020: good job! Give yourself a pat on the back. Now that 2020 is here, one thing that almost everyone did at the start of this year was…getting the date wrong on documents and still writing 2019. Look, been there done that.
Now think about the start of 2019 for a minute: chances are that you came into this year with some New Year’s resolutions, which is awesome. Resolutions are a great way to reflect on the things that you’ve done well and want to continue, and others which maybe haven’t gone too well, and you want to improve.
You probably told yourself that “this year is going to be different! This year is going to be THE year where I achieve all my resolutions! This year I will finally fulfill all my dreams and this year is going to be the BEST YEAR EVER!”
And that’s awesome! But… you probably said that in 2018, and 2017, and maybe the year before, and the year prior to that and so on. In fact, that is what most of us do. At the start of every year, most of us set ourselves some New Year’s resolutions which, realistically, would change our life for the better. But many of us are never able to truly achieve our goals. But we’ve got some good news for you: 1) you’re not the only one, and 2) there are specific reasons why New Year’s resolutions fail.
The following are the 6 main reason why most New Year’s resolutions fail, and how to fix them:
Your goal is not specific enough
Possibly the biggest reason why people fail to accomplish their New Year’s resolutions is because they are not specific enough. “I want to be healthier” or “I want to be more fit” are not specific New Year’s resolutions. They can be vague, and achieving them is next to impossible: how would you even know if you have achieved them? There is no plan on how you are going to achieve such goals and there is no timeline on when you are going to do that. In short, having a vague New Year’s resolutions is like driving to Perth from Canberra without knowing the way and without a map or a GPS, and oh, did we mention your left your car at home?
In order to achieve your New Year’s resolutions, you first need to design your resolutions in a detailed manner. Using SMART goals for this is an amazing way to ensure that your New Year’s resolutions are well designed.
It is a marathon, not a sprint
New Year’s resolutions are meant to be a goal that you achieve over a period of time, not overnight. Also, it is not exactly the best idea to drastically change your life in an instant for a New Year’s resolution because chances are, you will hate it eventually. Haven’t you heard? Slow and Steady wins the race!
Take it slow and start working towards your goal slowly. If your goal is to workout 7 days a week, then start by working out twice a week first. Once you get comfortable with that, increase it to 3 days and then overtime, you will achieve your goal. This format can be applied to almost any goal you lay it for yourself.
Personalize your New Year’s resolutions to yourself
Before your even start designing your New Year’s resolutions, one thing you want to make sure is that your goal is genuinely something you want to achieve and something that you resonate with. It is extremely easy to get influenced by other people’s resolutions or their expectations of you. Do not plan to “lose weight” because other people expect you to lose weight or look a certain way. Plan to “lose weight” only if you want to do that for yourself and no other reason. Make your New Year’s resolutions as personal as possible because that will ensure that you stay interested enough to pursue with your goals.
Have strong reasons behind your New Year’s Resolution
Following the last tip, having strong reasoning behind your New Year’s resolutions is crucial because it is extremely hard to pursue something overtime when you don’t know WHY you are doing it. When planning your New Year’s resolutions, always ask yourself “why do I want to achieve this?”. If you can answer this question behind every goal of yours, your chances of succeeding increase dramatically.
Track your progress
One thing people often forget with any type of goal is to track its progress. If you do not track the progress of your New Year’s resolutions, you will have an extremely tough time getting an idea of how close/far you are from achieving your goal. Imagine following a GPS where you cannot see the destination, time, estimated time of arrival, elapsed time or the total time for the journey. The only thing you can see is the road ahead. While this is not helpful, it is also extremely de-motivating because you have no idea when you will reach. Therefore, always track your goals!
Have fun and enjoy the journey
Perhaps the most important thing! Have fun with your New Year’s resolutions and enjoy the journey. Remember, discipline is a choice, not a punishment. Make your goals fun because if you chose to do something you hate every day, you will eventually stop doing it. Therefore, do not treat this like a punishment and have lot of fun!
Hopefully you found these tips helpful and you will be able to incorporate them into your personal New Year’s Resolutions for 2020! Goodluck to you all!